Chakras, essential oils, Heart Chakra, meditations

Chains that bind our Heart Energy

Still thinking ‘bout ‘Chains upon this heart of mine…” that was a point of an earlier Heart Chakrainspiration:

LOVE’s mysteries Inspiration comes again from Maria Popova on ‘Brainpickings.org: “Why Love Hurts: The Sociology of How Our Institutions Rather Than Our Personal Psychological Failings Shape the Romantic Agony of Modern Life

“There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love,” philosopher Erich Fromm wrote in his inquiry into what is keeping us from mastering the art of loving. ……..

Moroccan sociologist Eva Illouz examined how the social organization of modern life has profoundly altered the hues and texture of our experience of romantic agony by transforming three elemental aspects of the self: “the will (how we want something), recognition (what matters for our sense of worth), and desire (what we long for and how we long for it).”

Although unrequited love and the anguish of longing have a perennial place in our experience of romantic pain, Illouz is concerned with the pain that lives within actualized romantic relationships. She writes:

“When relationships do get formed, agonies do not fade away, as one may feel bored, anxious, or angry in them; have painful arguments and conflicts; or, finally, go through the confusion, self-doubts, and depression of break-ups or divorces…. Despite the widespread and almost collective character of these experiences, our culture insists they are the result of faulty or insufficiently mature psyches.

The rise of clinical psychology in the twentieth century only solidified and granted scientific legitimacy to this notion that our romantic misery is a function of our psychological failings — an idea that caught on in large part because implicit to it was the promise that those failings can be deconditioned. And yet, Illouz argues, such overemphasis on individual shortcomings gravely warps the broader reality — a reality in which the systems, institutions, and social contracts (read that as chains)that govern our existence seed the core ambivalence of love and life: what we really want.

She writes: “In the same way that at the end of the nineteenth century it was radical to claim that poverty was the result not of dubious morality or weak character, but of systematic economic exploitation, it is now urgent to claim not that the failures of our private lives are the result of weak psyches, but rather that the vagaries and miseries of our emotional life are shaped by institutional arrangements… What is wrong are not dysfunctional childhoods or insufficiently self-aware psyches, but the set of social and cultural tensions and contradictions that have come to structure modern selves and identities.

The reason why love is so central to our happiness and identity is not far from the reason why it is such a difficult aspect of our experience: both have to do with the ways in which self and identity are institutionalized in modernity… Love contains, mirrors, and amplifies the “entrapment” of the self in the institutions of modernity, institutions, to be sure, shaped by economic and gender relations. (note from me:———-What we choose to focus on becomes our reality—we can, through meditation, make the choice to let go of everything we are  so attached to that’s not serving us and manifest the reality that we want.  Life is an illusion created by our perception, and we can see changed the moment we chose to change it.)

[Love] is shaped and produced by concrete social relations [and] circulates in a marketplace of unequal competing actors… Some people command greater capacity to define the terms in which they are loved than others.

Illouz argues that sociology — a discipline, more than any other, “born out of a frantic and anxious questioning about the meaning and consequences of modernity” — is the most revelatory lens through which to examine how modern life, marked by the period beginning at the end of WWI, has restructured the romantic self. Nearly a century after Bertrand Russell’s inquiry into why religion arose in human life and what is supplanting it, she considers how the displacement of religion by secular culture has impacted our ideals and our interior experience of love:

Modernity sobered people up from the powerful but sweet delusions and illusions that had made the misery of their lives bearable. Devoid of these fantasies, we would lead our lives without commitment to higher principles and values, without the fervor and ecstasy of the sacred, without the heroism of saints, without the certainty and orderliness of divine commandments, but most of all without those fictions that console and beautify.

Such sobering up is nowhere more apparent than in the realm of love, which for several centuries in the history of Western Europe had been governed by the ideals of chivalry, gallantry, and romanticism. The male ideal of chivalry had one cardinal stipulation: to defend the weak with courage and loyalty. The weakness of women was thus contained in a cultural system in which it was acknowledged and glorified because it transfigured male power and female frailty into lovable qualities… Women’s social inferiority could thus be traded for men’s absolute devotion in love, which in turn served as the very site of display and exercise of their masculinity, prowess, and honor. More: women’s dispossession of economic and political rights was accompanied (and presumably compensated) by the reassurance that in love they were not only protected by men but also superior to them. It is therefore unsurprising that love has been historically so powerfully seductive to women; it promised them the moral status and dignity they were otherwise denied in society and it glorified their social fate: taking care of and loving others, as mothers, wives, and lovers. Thus, historically, love was highly seductive precisely because it concealed as it beautified the deep inequalities at the heart of gender relationships.

To perform gender identity and gender struggles is to perform the institutional and cultural core dilemmas and ambivalence of modernity, dilemmas that are organized around the key cultural and institutional motives of authenticity, autonomy, equality, freedom, commitment, and self-realization. To study love is not peripheral but central to the study of the core and foundation of modernity.

As sexuality became unmoored from morality, love became a currency for social mobility. Illouz places this shift alongside the Scientific Revolution, the invention of the printing press, and the rise of capitalism in its effects on our lives and our basic experience of identity. She writes:

While love has played a considerable role in the formation of what historians call “affective individualism,” the story of love in modernity tends to present it as a heroic one, from bondage to freedom. When love triumphs, so this story goes, marriages of convenience and interest disappear, and individualism, autonomy, and freedom are triumphant. Nevertheless, while I agree that romantic love challenged both patriarchy and the family institution, the “pure relationship” also rendered the private sphere more volatile and the romantic consciousness unhappy. What makes love such a chronic source of discomfort, disorientation, and even despair … can be adequately explained only by sociology and by understanding the cultural and institutional core of modernity.

By juxtaposing the ideal of romantic love with the institution of marriage, modern polities embed social contradictions in our aspirations, contradictions which in turn take a psychological life. The institutional organization of marriage (predicated on monogamy, cohabitation, and the pooling of economic resources together in order to increase wealth) precludes the possibility of maintaining romantic love as an intense and all-consuming passion. Such a contradiction forces agents to perform a significant amount of cultural work in order to manage and reconcile the two competing cultural frames. This juxtaposition of two cultural frames in turn illustrates how the anger, frustration, and disappointment that often inhere in love and marriage have their basis in social and cultural arrangements.”  (from http://www.Brainpickings.org

Attainment of love and compassion remains our goal and thus to become fully what one potentially is:.  It is those chains of society, the secret chains that bind us,   Fromm observes that the chains are culture’s property-driven materialism and our individual intrinsic tendencies toward narcissism. These internal ‘chains’ clog up the free flow of Universal Energy-chi-Prana that allow our very essence to expand and give off the fragrance of our one-of -a-kindness.

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SOUNDS: Meditation Music for Clearing the Heart Chakra: Miraculous Healing Music for Heart chakra by Meditative Music-Meditative Mind

imageCRYSTALS:” The fair and lovely Rose quartz, with its gently pink essence, is a stone of the heart, a Crystal of unconditional love.

AROMAS: The highest frequency Essential Oil: ROSE

MEDITATION:  Meditate on FREEDOM and the unlocking  of all chains, known and unknown that keep you from pure unconditional LOVE

YOGA: Shoulder stretch such as the arm positions of Cow Face

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Eagle Pose

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      Heart Chakra Eagle Pose                                           

Backbends

Heart Chakra backbend

Forward bend–the ole touch your toes test

Heart Chakra forward bend

SEE YA LATER :
“Taught from their infancy that beauty is woman’s sceptre, the mind shapes itself to the body, and roaming round its gilt cage, only seeks to adorn its prison. -Mary Wollstonecraft, reformer and writer (27 Apr 1759-1797)

Be mindful every chance you get to cast aside the chains of  societal slavery to materialism, to the desire of others, judgements, and desires to control. Dance and be aware moment by moment.  LOVE yourself as that is the greatest healer.

LOVE,

Priscilla

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Vibrant Green Heart Chakra

Vibrant Green Heart Chakra is where Mind, Body and Spirit Unite!

Heart Chakra Spin heart zentangle          Anahata Heart Chakra                                 Zentangle from Pinterest         on Pinterest by Examiner.com

Your  vibrating Heart Chakra is all about love, air, social identity….

It’s also about balance, equilibrium, and well-being.

If  we ask what is well-being and  how we want to live — what we seek from life, what makes life meaningful for us, most of us will agree that the goal of all our goals is happiness.

Most definitions of happiness,  Eric Fromm, (Great humanistic philosopher of the 20th century, as explored by Maria Popova in “Brain Pickings Weekly”  March 27th ), observes,” converge at some version of having our needs met and our wishes fulfilled — but this raises the question of what it is we actually want…. It’s essentially a question about human nature — or, rather, about the interplay of nature and nurture mediated by norms. Adding to the vocabulary of gardening as a metaphor for understanding happiness and making sense of mastery, Fromm illustrates his point:

This is indeed well understood by any gardener. The aim of the life of a rosebush is to be all that is inherent as potentiality in the rosebush: that its leaves are well developed and that its flower is the most perfect rose that can grow out of this seed. The gardener knows, then, in order to reach this aim he must follow certain norms that have been empirically found. The rosebush needs a specific kind of soil, of moisture, of temperature, of sun and shade. It is up to the gardener to provide these things if he wants to have beautiful roses. But even without his help the rosebush tries to provide itself with the optimum of needs. It can do nothing about moisture and soil, but it can do something about sun and temperature by growing “crooked,” in the direction of the sun, provided there is such an opportunity. Why would not the same hold true for the human species?

Even if we had no theoretical knowledge about the reasons for the norms that are conducive to man’s optimal growth and functioning, experience tells us just as much as it tells the gardener. Therein lies the reason that all great teachers of man have arrived at essentially the same norms for living, the essence of these norms being that the overcoming of greed, illusions, and hate, and the attainment of love and compassion, are the conditions for attaining optimal being. Drawing conclusions from empirical evidence, even if we cannot explain the evidence theoretically, is a perfectly sound and by no means “unscientific” method, although the scientists’ ideal will remain, to discover the laws behind the empirical evidence.

He distills the basic principle of life’s ultimate aim:

The goal of living [is] to grow optimally according to the conditions of human existence and thus to become fully what one potentially is; to let reason or experience guide us to the understanding of what norms are conducive to well-being, given the nature of man that reason enables us to understand.
But one of the essential ingredients of well-being, Fromm notes, has been gruesomely warped by capitalist industrial society — the idea of freedom and its attainment by the individual:

Liberation has been exclusively applied to liberation from outside forces; by the middle class from feudalism, by the working class from capitalism, by the peoples in Africa and Asia from imperialism.

Such external liberation, Fromm argues, is essentially political liberation — an inherently limiting pseudo-liberation, which can obscure the emergence of various forms of imprisonment and entrapment within the political system. He writes:

This is the case in Western democracy, where political liberation hides the fact of dependency in many disguises… Man can be a slave even without being put in chains… The outer chains have simply been put inside of man. The desires and thoughts that the suggestion apparatus of society fills him with, chain him more thoroughly than outer chains. This is so because man can at least be aware of outer chains but be unaware of inner chains, carrying them with the illusion that he is free. He can try to overthrow the outer chains, but how can he rid himself of chains of whose existence he is unaware?

Any attempt to overcome the possibly fatal crisis of the industrialized part of the world, and perhaps of the human race, must begin with the understanding of the nature of both outer and inner chains; it must be based on the liberation of man in the classic, humanist sense as well as in the modern, political and social sense… The only realistic aim is total liberation, a goal that may well be called radical (or revolutionary) humanism.

The two most pernicious chains keeping us from liberation, Fromm observes, are our culture’s property-driven materialism and our individual intrinsic tendencies toward narcissism…..”

Those internal ‘chains’ clog up the free flow of Universal energy -chi-Prana that allow our very essence to expand and give off the fragrance of our one-of-a-kindness.

SOUNDS:  Meditation Music for Clearing the Heart Chakra to allow your love energy to fill the air and vibrate with the sounds.  One I found was Miraculous Healing Music for Heart Chakra (Anahata) by Meditative Music-Meditative Mind

CRYSTALS: “The fair and lovely Rose Quartz, with its gentle pink essence, is a stone of the heart, a Crystal of Unconditional Love.     Rose Quartz also inspires the love of beauty, in oneself and others, in nature, and especially that which stimulates the imagination – art, music and the written word.”

AROMAS: The highest frequency Essential oil: ROSE

MEDITATION:  Visualize a pink rose in your Spring green heart energy field.

From the OSHO Mystic rose Meditation : Our lives can become just a utility –” just a function which any robot can do. 

“The only thing that the robot cannot do is meditation. In other words, I am saying that those who are not in meditation are being robots, without being aware that they are just utilities, functions, they are needed.

But a person of meditation   realizes that it does not matter whether they are needed or not – they are a joy unto themselves. They are bliss, they do not depend on anybody  or anyTHING to make themselves blissful. That is the only freedom possible in the world. Otherwise we are a slave in chains.

                                                 pink rose petals

“I would like people to understand it absolutely that unless you become blissful on your own accord, unless your rose opens within your own being, you are just a commodity, just a thing, an object. Meditation reveals your subjectivity. Subjectivity is your consciousness, and your consciousness and its experience makes your life significant, meaningful, eternal, immortal, without any beginning and without any end. A celebration, moment-to-moment a dance.

And unless you have caste aside the chains of slavery and transformed your life into a moment-to-moment dance you have missed the opportunity that existence gives you.”

YOGA:   Poses (Asanas )that enliven the heart chakra include passive chest openers in which we arch gently over a blanket or bolster, shoulder stretches such as the arm positions of Cow Face (Gomukhasana)heart chakra of Cow face Pose Comukhasanaand Garudasana (Eagle Pose),

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and backbends.

Heart Chakra backbend

Being an even-numbered, feminine chakra, the heart center naturally yearns to release and let go. Doing backbends develops the trust and surrender we need to open the heart fully. When we feel fearful, there is no room for love, and our bodies show contraction. When we choose love, the fear melts away, and our practice takes on a joyful quality. In many backbending poses, the heart is positioned higher than the head. It’s wonderfully refreshing to let the mind drop away from the top position and instead lead with the heart.

Some signs that the heart chakra is overpowering your life can include co-dependency, possessiveness, jealousy, heart disease, and high blood pressure. For these symptoms, forward bends are the best antidote, because they are grounding and foster introspection. While people with deficient heart chakras need to open to receive love more fully, those with excessive heart chakras find healing by slowing down to discover inside themselves the nourishment they have been seeking from others.

Heart Chakra forward bend heart Chakra forward bend sittingThe most powerful way to open, energize, and balance not just the heart chakra but all of our chakras is to love ourselves and others. Love is the greatest healer.

SEE YA LATER:

“If I had my life to live over, I would start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way later in the fall.  I would go to more dances. I would ride more merry-go-rounds. I would pick more daisies. “~Nadine Stair

We choose how to live each day, and we choose the type of person we want to be.  Unfortunately, we often choose the type of person that we think others want to see rather than the person we truly are, and that prevents us from going barefoot early in the spring or spending time picking daisies when we could be “being productive.” 

How about slinging off the chains of expectations and finding something to do today that doesn’t take much time at all, or commercial ‘possessions’, but is truly enjoyable?  Why not do it? And then keep on doing it each day!!  Experience FREEDOM to just be sparkling YOU doing what you like to do.

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